One of the reasons I have this blog is because it is an outlet to discuss reactions to natural hair. Recently, I have been experiencing some very negative comments about locks I'd like to share.
First Comment (from Black Male co-worker): "My mother would say why would you deform yourself like that intentionally?" He was referring to people that choose dreads/locs.
Second Comment: I was on my way to the airport with a guy friend. My mom was dropping us off. My mom who had not seen this friend in over 10 years decides to ask him, not about himself or what he's been doing, but about my hair. She says, "Do you like Sophia's hair?". He says, "no". I cringe and he continues, "She discussed it with me when she was considering them back in the day and I told her not to...". My mom just kinda smiled with satisfaction and was quiet the rest of the ride. I just laughed to myself.
My reaction: I think when people tell me they don't like my hair or natural hair, I see it not as them rejecting or disapproving me and/or my hair but their very own Blackness. Your judgments don't define others, they define yourself. The most important thing about your hair is how you feel about it. See above pic; I feel damn good!