I had been thinking about my hairstory for some time and finally arriving at a place where bunching doesn't matter to me, my one gripe with my Sisterlocks. After talking to Martine (famous SL consultant) about it, she said bunching is locking. Your hair is fine. I love that! Bunching=Locking. I had never thought about that before because I was too busy worried that my hair would look like this. LOL!
I'm kidding. I was actually thinking about something I read. It said that your birthing story and developments around your time of birth and as a kid, affects you now. No surprise there! But I started to think about how my hair was received into the world around me, with my family, and how I thought of my hair as a kid.
Well, here it goes! The complete Hairstory of Naturally Sophia:
This is me before my first year; as you can see, my first style was a bob. No wonder I keep going back to that. LOL!
BELOW: My last bob
My 1st Bun/Chignon
Yes, they make me cringe to this day. For along time that was the only compliment I ever received. It was an adjective that other people placed on me to describe my entire being. It either went this way "You got good hair and long too" or "You know her the one with the long pretty hair." It was a way to isolate me from the other little girls. I did feel isolated. I recall one woman told me as a child, " you have the prettiest hair I have ever seen." I was standing right next to her daughter, a little girl the same age with pigtails all over. She looked at me as if I had betrayed her. I had nothing to do with it. Naturally, I loved and resented my hair. I loved the affection and attention but hated the isolation. From an early age, I resented the fact that the praise I was shown was tied to my hair that I realized was impermanent while enjoying the praise all the while. Complicated for a 6 year old!
I finally decided on Sisterlocks after a period of regression and exploration after combing out my traditional, 1st set of locks. Those were gone because of peer pressure and family inclination to berate me because of my wild head with messy locks. In this period, I tried everything from hand tied weave, sewn-ins, wigs, color, and braids. None of them seem to work for me.
I am happy with my hair now as it is despite what the critics say. Yes, this includes the Sisterlock critics who say use this shampoo or that, locks should be smaller/larger, and that my hair and it's bunching is a problem.
For me, being natural on its highest level is an intangible thing. You feel it but can't always grab it. I feel after a certain point, the things that used to matter don't matter anymore.
My list of progressively unimportant things include:
Press N Curls
$20 wash and wraps (never lasted longer than 4 days)
Lottabody Setting Lotion (mostly alcohol)
Braids with Kanekalon
Micro Braids ( too much work to remove)
Cornrows ( too tight)
Weave ( I still have packs in my house, ugh)
Bronner Brothers Pump It Up ( seriously it's marketed as spritz but I know it's glue)
Flat Irons (heat damage)
Sitting under the Dryer for 2 hours (more heat damage)
Pro Style Gel (flakes, dries hair)
Making My Own Shampoo
Leaving Organic Materials in My Hair ( I used to shampoo my hair with blended aloe vera and leave the green plant material in my traditional locks, I know, ewww)
Umbrellas (used to not leave home without it)
Cholesterol ( used instead of shampoo)
Blow Dryers (well pencil this one in, my consultant says I need to have my hair dry more, faster)
One day I hope to add Sisterlocks and Retightenings to the list. But I am enjoying the journey all the way. Thanks for letting me share my 2 year old thoughts with you. By the way, if you are reading this you have good hair too. There is no good or bad. Hair doesn't misbehave; people do.
Here I am today 2 years and 2 weeks after the initial install. (Today's pic coming soon).