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Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Magnificient Martine

Look who showed up at my door! None other than marvelous Martine Bernard, expert and famous Sisterlock Consultant and Stylist! For anyone who hasn't met Martine, you would be taken by her voice, her beauty, her grace, her style, her open mind, and her smile. I love her company! She is fun, smart, tres chic, and professional. I could go on and on but I won't. She allowed me to do this very special natural hair interview.

For those of you who don't know, Martine's hair loss story initially appeared on Brunsli's blog. She was so grateful to Brunsli and to the community for the outpouring of love and kindness. She is still developing how she feels about her long to short hair transition. While we were conversing, I told her that her face, hair and entire being were so beautiful. To me, she looks even younger if that were possible. Just look.

NOW
Who would not want to have this perfect skin and beautiful smile? Her hair is still beautiful and is a nice accompaniment to her beautiful face.


THEN


Wow! Doesn't she look younger and revitalized?!

During our time together, I asked her about her cut. How did she feel once she cut it? Who cut it?

Martine said that a dear friend cut her hair. And she sobbed once she looked in the mirror.

She noted that her hair was dark, very short, and didn't cover her back (where she has a tiny, barely noticeable birthmark). Those were her first thoughts as she was sobbing. Then, she was angry. She missed her hair and felt she had to cut it rather than repair her locks. Why you might ask. I did.

Martine said, "You can glue a dinner plate back together and make it work, but the plate will never be the same again. My hair cut is my new dinner plate."

She went on to say that she was hurt that we have to go through these hair issues compared to our straighter hair sisters. However, she has grown in her processing emotionally and mentally.

She said, using an analogy,

"I thought I was this regular cake, ordinary but good, and the Sisterlocks were this incredible icing that made me Great. But now I realize that I am this outstanding cake."
I told her that the icing (her hair) was great now too. I asked her about this gorgeous color and her maintenance.

She just picks her hair out with a pick or her fingers and just goes. She loves feeling her scalp and running her fingers through her hair after almost 10 years. Her color is a red with an orange base and fits her perfectly. Don't you think?

I asked her what she wanted you to know about her experience.

She said, "I never thought my hair could fall out from tension alopecia. It was always strong. I learned that regardless of your hair type too tight braiding may cause any hair to fall out." She emphasized that braiding wasn't the culprit, but that over styling in tight styles and tight braiding will take a toll on even the strongest hair.

Martine is loving the freedom and plans to play with her hair before starting her next set of Sisterlocks. She was covering her loss of hair with scarves and headbands. She loves that she's progressed from feeling she needs to cover her hair because of her previous hair loss. I feel although she has cut her hair, she has gained a new outlook on locks, hair, and herself.

She is making a conscious effort to hold her head up high and remind herself that she is beautiful inside and out regardless of her hair. Anyone of us would struggle if we felt we had to cut our hair, but even more so, after having waist length beautiful hair. .Many of her clients have started to cry or become overwhelmed when seeing Martine's short look. Can you imagine the emotional toll that would take on you? But Martine has gone through this whole experience with style and grace, much stronger with each day.

The comments on Brunsli's initial post and Reflecting with Martine made a huge impact on Martine. She profusely thanks everyone for their support especially Brunsli for doing such a good job with her expose'! She told me she read many of the comments over again to brighten her day when she first cut her hair. She is still transitioning as anyone would but especially as she is well-know for her previously blazing red locks. Let's all continue to support Martine as she goes on positively in her new experience.

29 comments:

euphoria said...

Thanks for dropping by my site, I love the ties & I think Martine looks more radiant with out her locks but at the same time after you have spent a great deal of time growing and cultivating gorgeous locks and to loose them in a manner in which she did can be devistating, I to am struggling with a huge patch of missing hair myself & I refuse to give up my plight to regrow my hair in that area for me I get depressed because my styling options are limited due to my baldness I do a lock over to cover the spot sometimes I just want to wear my locks whichever way they fall but I can't, I am proud of Martine and the other countless women that have hair issues its not the end of the world but it sure as heck feels like it. side note (locks did not cause my hair loss)

lashaunej said...

I had the pleasure of saying hello to Martine at the Taliah Waajid natural hair show in Atlanta this past weekend. I looked over to my left and there she was. Looking beautiful and raidant. I just had to say hello and I did. She was so thankful for my love and support. Martine was also amazed that I recognize her without her locks.

Beautiful Spirit

Peace and blessings

Naturally Sophia,
I looked for you at the show this past weekend did you attend?

new2locs said...

Martine looks gorgeous with her short natural hair! Yes she looks vibrant, she even looks happy! I'm glad that Martine's outlook is improving & I wish her the best as she continues on this natural journey be it a loose natural or locked.

msfullroller said...

She is beautiful and radiant just as she is!

Laquita said...

Wonderful post - very inspiring - and yes she does look much younger :o) I love her hair color too.

Quietspirit said...

Martine looks great. I love the cut. I also completely understand how devastatng cutting your locks can feel. I am so glad to read she is doing well. She it truely an exceptional woman.

Brown ButtahFly said...

She is beautiful with otr without her locks!

I can feel her pain for wanting to start over. I still have a few locks that I'm not to happy about and it seems like I won't be happy until I start over, however I'm still trying to be patient.

Thanks for sharing this post take care!

Serving Christ said...

She is definitely gorgeous with or without locs. Her beauty and style is felt in her photos with her warming smile. Thanks for sharing her story.

Cashana said...

She is beautiful and her inner beauty radiates for all to see. I think her story is educational to all women and their hair woes. She reminds me that it is our inner being that makes us who we are, not our hair. Her story has actually affected the way I feel about the imperfections of my own locks, which makes me realize my imperfections are just perfect! She is an inspiration.

brunsli said...

Yay! Martine looks fabulous. We (almost) don't know why she was so upset.

You ladies are both gorgeous with your wonderful smiles.

Afrolady said...

Martine has an inner-beauty that cannot be described with mere words, and it shines through her diamond eyes and her huge brilliant smile. Both of you look absolutely amazing. Thanks for keeping us posted. PEACE!!

BlaqKofi said...

Wow! What a testimony to self love, self image and hair. M's smile, skin, face and hair are radiant. I actually LOVE her short do and her new Sisterlocks are going to be sooo cute. What a greater testimony she'll have as they begin to mature and grow. She's blessed to have you and Brunsli as friends. This Sisterlocks sisterhood is a wonderful bond. Thanks for sharing.

Au Naturale said...

her short hair really opens up her face! it's amazing how a little thing like hair can really change how a person looks. she looks gorgeous with or without her locks!

nubianvision said...

"If I wanna shave it close or I wanna rock locs, it don't take a bit away from soul that I got." Ms Martine is the human embodiment of that lyric. What a beautiful sista.

Carmennc said...

Thank you for sharing Sophia! Either way, Martine, you and your hair rock! They vibrant TWA is right on time for the spring/summer too!

Sunshine Sisterlocks said...

She looks great with her new cut and you look wonderful as well!

Queen Nat said...

Martine's beauty is still radiant, and I appreciate her honesty with this part of her journey. Sophia, you looking good as always - love the cut!

Sauda said...

Beautiful. Keep up the inspiration! Thank you ladies for keeping it so real all the time!

Anonymous said...

She looks refreshed. I see the spirit radiating. I thought that instantly before I read your comment.

NappTown said...

My God she is beautiful! And so is her hair!!! Kinda makes me miss my short hair days. I agree that it lifts the face and makes one look younger. You did a wonderful job with the interview Sophia. God bless you for your continued support for Martine. BTW, your hair color and cut are slammin too. :-)

muslimahlocs said...

martine is gorgeous on any day with any style.

Sisterlocks Convert said...

Your hair is beautiful short or long and you have the face to set off either style. You have fab hair and makeup and hair will always grow. My hair was short just like yours when I first went natural, I just learnt to work with it and enjoyed the ride as you are doing. Martine - keep smiling and touching the 'fro :)

N'Drea ~ the Storyteller said...

Sophia, you did such an awesome job with this post. Kudos!

I'd love to meet Martine one day. Her beautiful aura just shines through. Such a lovely soul. I admired her with those gorgeous locks, but I'm blown away by how she's rocking her short 'do with that sassy colour. And her jewellery complements the style so well. Martine, you're an inspiration. Keep on shining.

SeZ said...

This is a wonderful post. it really shows how you feel about her as a stylist and as a friend. I think that Martine looks wonderful in whatever style she wears. It looks fresh for the summer and locked her will be back in effect soon.

Kendria said...

Hi mama... I love your blog. The pictures are fab! I can't wait to go to a hair show.. but then again, it feels like I'm seeing one every day in this everyday South Florida living, lol!

Bless up!

naturalvette said...

Martine looks more beautiful than ever. She is rocking that short hair. Live in this moment and enjoy the place you are in now!!!

Greg N. said...

Hi Martine,
Best wishes from long ago... I'd like to be in touch, I'm at 'Gregory J Nordquist' on Facebook.
:-)

Anonymous said...

Does Martine have a blog or Fokti Album?

Naturally Sophia said...

Martine has a website. I don't know the url. Go tohe Sisterlocks site and then search for her under Boston consultants.