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Friday, October 26, 2007

Tag! Naturally, Sophia's "It" Again

1. I have a huge birthmark shaped like a bra or bikini top covering part of my shoulders and then my entire chest. In the interest of keeping my blog "G rated", I have included part of the "bra" birthmark showing the strap in the photo near my hand.

2. Although I am single, I love the stability of committed relationships. I have never cheated on a boyfriend; I am loyal to a fault sometimes.

3. I believe that Aliens exist.

4. I am attempting the diet prescribed in Queen Afua's Sacred Woman Journal which is ironically similar to the "Skinny Bitch" diet :

  • Organic fruits and veggies
  • Proteins: Soy products, beans, nuts
  • Starches: Whole grain cereals, whole grain bread, whole wheat pasta, vegetable pasta, tortillas, brown rice, barley, quinoa, potatoes, sweet potatoes
  • Treats: Organic corn chips; tofu ice cream; desserts sweetened with cane juice, maple syrup, raw sugar or other natural, unrefined products
  • Drinks: Water (with an optional slice of fruit), decaf green tea, organic red wine

5. I like to make lists. I feel better with any type of lists; this means I enjoy having grocery lists, to do lists, and priority lists.

6. Most of the time, my favorite color is green. But right now, I just couldn't be more in love with turquoise:

7. I pray.

Why do I pray?

The answer is in James 5:16:

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

Thanks for inviting me Brave New Girl. Unfortunately, I don't have time to tag and follow-up with specific bloggers. But I invite all who read this to consider themselves tagged. Please write 7 things about you if you so choose.

Thursday, October 25, 2007

Sophie and The Single Life

1. Bachelor #1, Salad Guy and I were getting along well. We had similar interest and good,long conversations. We even had a date where he fell asleep on my lap in front of the T.V. How sweet! Well, we talked from time to time; but lately I had not heard from him. Then all of a sudden he sends me flowers, chocolate. Oh no! He sends a picture of his flaccid penis to my camera phone. I don't see why he couldn't just wait for me to view it as our dating progressed. So, at the time, I sent a text message reply asking was all that for me. He replied, "Yes, when do you want it?". I replied, "On our wedding night". He replied, "lol!". I called Salad Guy for comments, but he ignores my calls now. I really would like to know why he would have sent that after knowing me for about a month and since dating was going well...I thought.
2. Bachelor # 2, Stretch, I met this guy and thought we were ok. After all, we had only spoken once and were on the track to become friends as he just moved to the A from New Jersey. Well, one weekend, I was super busy doing repairs on my house and could not take his 2 calls at the time. He called me back a third time leaving a voice message saying, "You stupid ape looking bitch. You are not a dime (a 10). How dare you ignore my calls? Dumb BITCH!" click.

Whoa! He was so angry. Did anything I do warrant that response? He was so wounded. He complained earlier (when we first spoke) about meeting women that acted as if they were owed something like money or gifts for themselves and their kids just to date or be friends.

I mean how can he base his self-worth on what someone else does. I don't care who does not immediately answer the phone, I would not act that way. I would not think that someone is ignoring me based on 2 calls made within 24 hours. I could have been dead, sick, or just busy. I try to be open to men, but I can't figure out why I am getting these loonies.

2 more true stories from the ATL...

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Naturally, Sophia Finally Found out about Beach Lady

When I was rocking my first set of traditional locks circa 2003, someone told me about "Beach Lady". My Floridian co-worker at the time asked me if I was going to grow my locks, which were very blond and long, as long as Beach Lady's locs. He gave me a vague physical description but did not tell me her significance.

I recently found out about her:

MaVynee Oshun Betsch, known as "The Beach Lady and the unofficial mayor of American Beach, has made it her full-time mission to protect her community: physically, culturally, spiritually, and historically until her death in September of 2005.
A striking, eccentric figure, with her six-foot long dreadlocks arranged purposefully to follow the shape of the Niger River and her left hand's curling 16-inch long nails protected by a plastic bag, MaVynee uses her appearance to attract others to her cause of keeping alive the legacy of American Beach.
Taking on major developers, and with almost no material resources at all, MaVynee stands firm in her commitment to the conservation of the beach and the perpetuation of the legacy of the founder of American Beach, her great-grandfather Abraham Lincoln Lewis.
Here is a little more info on American Beach:
a unique Florida seaside community on Amelia Island that provided relaxation, recreation, and rejuvenation for hundreds of thousands of African Americans throughout the South. Though founded in 1935 as a summer haven for segregated Blacks, the land that American Beach occupies has had a special relationship with people of African descent for over two hundred years.

From slavery to self-sustenance, it has come to symbolize success, achievement, and the American Dream, but its precarious location sandwiched in between two billion-dollar resort communities, Amelia Island Plantation and Summer Beach Resort, make it vulnerable.
Amelia Island Plantation has purchased 83 acres of undeveloped land in American Beach, planning to build an assisted living facility, five holes of a nine-hole golf course, and at least seventy houses. The encroaching development threatens the Black beach community north of Jacksonville, with its residents struggling to keep their properties, their heritage, and a unique and singular way of life.

American Beach is an incongruity, a respite of whimsy with no two houses alike, nestled between developments designed with money in mind. The threat of extinction that it faces from many different sources.
You can find more info and references on Wikipedia if interested.

Monday, October 22, 2007

You Have Good Hair Locks

While at the Philly Loc Conference, I met a young woman who said that she wanted SLs just like mine. I thanked her and gave her some general info on Sisterlocks. I also informed her that my niece, behind me and Cluizel behind her have sisterlocks. She looked at me, said "oh", and then repeated, " I want sisterlocks just like you. Your hair is pretty." So, at that point, I just smiled and told her it was nice meeting her. She went on to say, "I want curls like you." I told her the curls were natural. I really don't know how to make people like this get the point that Sisterlocks do NOT change your hair texture. Sisterlocks is just a locking technique not a texturizer or a magician's trick.

I want to address the issue of hair texture and locs. Even with locs, people distinguish texture. I have had many locked and natural brothas and sistahs, comment about my hair texture. I have heard that my hair is too fine to lock. I have heard that I am messing my good hair up with locks and so on. How silly is this?! People just don't understand or seem to want to look like themselves.

Well, this is me; and this is a pic of "messing up my good hair" on day 1.

“If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive.” ~ Audre Lorde

Saturday, October 20, 2007

Beauty Inspiration: Sessilee Lopez

I am pleased to introduce another natural beauty. I have so many natural beauties that encourage me that I never not once wish for a track, a lacefront, or anything else unnatural. This one is Sessilee Lopez, and she is a Philly native and also a supermodel. I found some interviews from her about modeling but nothing that we Top Model fans don't already know. So, I will spare you the article. Just enjoy this natural beauty; and get inspired if you need inspiration.

Here she is back stage with another favorite of mine, supermodel Ajuma:

Sessilee works hard for the money. See:

Now, I understand what Tyra means when she says anything to get the shot right. But an iceberg? This couldn't be done on a set?

Friday, October 19, 2007

Celebs with Locs Looking a Mess

It's hard to write, but I want people with natural hair especially locs to look well-groomed and clean as much as possible. In my opinion, many people already have a bad or negative idea of locs. And seeing someone unkempt with locs just doesn't help to debunk the myth.
In particular, celebrities with locs should look good at all times especially women. I was searching a black gossip site and came across these two Khia (rapper) and Kim Fields (Tootie from Facts of Life/Regina from Living Single). Geesh!

Thursday, October 18, 2007

Retightening All by Myself: A 3 Tool Journey

Here is an update on my DIY project for my SLs.

1. The first tool I purchased is this tool called a latch hooker. It's similar to a crochet hook except it has a loop on one end of it. You slip the loop over the end of the lock and pull it thru in the pattern of your choice. In the sisterlocks world, I have a reverse 4. I prefer to use this pattern or an "X" pattern where I insert the tool in the root of my hair at the end of each line on the "X".
Here are some pics of me using it. 2. The second tool I purchased is the crochet hook. I later had my dad drill holes in the base of it after I had a hard time gripping the lock with the hook. First, I insert my lock in the hole of the tool and then I insert the hook back thru my loc. Easy! I had my dad drill 3 holes because I have shorter locs around my hairline and longer locs in the back. So, it was built to accommodate the varied lengths of my hair.

3. The last tool and favorite tool by far is the latch hook tool. I like this tool because it's the easiest to use. I slip it thru the root and grab the end of my loc. See the pic. Then I pull the tool holding the end of my loc through the root/base of my lock.

I absolutely love the DIY thing because I have never really had a good retightening session. I am still going to make an appointment with a consultant eventually, preferably Carmen. Thoughts, questions, comments?

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Do You Wash Your Hair?

Yes, someone has finally asked me those 5 "dreaded" words? What's worse is the lady that asked me is a Caribbean Black woman. Once I replied yes. She commented on the smells of some people's locs. Then she asked me how I washed them. Well, after telling her, I asked her to read this post on the proper way to wash locs. She seemed interested in locs and natural hair. This is from Carol at Coils & Curls in Colorado who is a Sisterlock consultant. Hope it's useful to the loc blog stalkers who are considering or anyone who needs a refresher.




Seperate & Dry

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Your Locs are Too Small!

Lately, people have been expressing various opinions to me about my looks. I must give the illusion of caring. Lol! Recently,I have gotten that my locs are too small as of late. If I am not experiencing breakage how can they be too small? Isn't size just a preference?

I have added a photo of a single loc next to a toothpick and then to a number 2 pencil just for scale.

I have around 500 Sisterlocks which is not really small in my honest opinion considering my consultant has almost 700 and many Sisterlocked sisters have 600 or more.

But since I haven't had Sisterlocks for 6 months yet I want to discuss it with all of you. Women with Sisterlocks are telling me they are too small. Sisterlock consultants are trying to combine my locs telling me they are too small. Women with relaxers their whole lives are telling me that it's too small. Is there something I'm missing? I think my locs look fine.

Monday, October 15, 2007

Look Who's Got A New Natural Look- Raven

Raven- She's all grown up and has gotten rid of the kiddie styles and the Euro straight weave. I am lovin' this look on her. Nice!

Sunday, October 14, 2007

For Heart Breaker Decepticon

I am very pleased with my purchase of Chrisette Michelle's I Am album some months ago. This song has been instrumental in healing after this experience with you H.D. Enjoy!

I saw you again at the parlor,

Crossing the walk with your lady,

I caught your eye from a far off,

I noticed she wore a ring, mmmm

I found a smile against my will

wish it was genuine.

I put away my desire

No more in love with you still,

Look I'm moving on.

Loved you, Lost you

Thought I'd give you all the best of me, uhhh

We departed, broken hearted,

I need to be free

What we had was oh so lovely

I'll swallow my pain,

It's my time to find the best of me

Can't be the type to be begging

Can't be the type to plead,

My mama made me much wiser,

What's mine will be just for me,

yeahI'm trying hard to just focus,

I'm trying hard to sleep,

Promise I'm glad you're happy

When it's my time it will be.

Look I'm moving on. Oo hoo hoo

Loved you, Lost you

Thought I'd give you all the best of me, uhhh

We departed, broken hearted,

I need to be free

What we had was oh so lovely

I'll swallow my pain,

It's my time to find the best of me

Oh my, why have I been just so foolish

All these times

Not realizing the beauty that your eyes once saw in mine

I guess it's time to find the best in me

Loved you, Lost you

Thought I'd give you all the best of me, uhhh

We departed, broken hearted,I need to be free

What we had was oh so lovely

I'll swallow my pain,

It's my time to find the best of me

Friday, October 12, 2007

Where Are You Now?

One of the things that was significant during the Philly Loc Conference was the long, philosophical conversations I had with the women there in particular my (adult) niece. At one point, she commented on how much better/different the world would be if we as people had the time to experience an experience fully. For example, she mentioned how it would be if we had enough time and space to grieve, really grieve when we felt it.

I have been examining my emotions as of late, feeling empowered to do so. I have been dissecting and magnifying each one to gain some introspect into my character and to understand the voyage of my life, the plight of this world...and others.

This song helps me to examine my grief whenever I hear it. In particular, it has significance for me regarding a friend that is/was a missing person . JMG- This is for you, wherever you are.

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Monday, October 8, 2007

Martine and the Magic Weave

Martine is a lovely, eloquent Sisterlock consultant who I first met through my sister at another hair show. I had the honor of spending time with her at the hair show, and she told me this story. She visited West Africa some time ago. And there like here, sistahs inquired about her hair. Martine said that they could not believe her hair was indeed her natural hair. She stated she invited them to take a look at her hair and feel it to see for themselves. The women touched it, looked at each other, conferred in their language, and reported back that it was some special American weave. They said that she tried to trick them and they couldn't be fooled saying that Martine would not tell them how it was attached. Martine said, in retrospect, she wished she had brought her natural hair tools to show them. In humid, 110 degree whether they have weaves and wigs piled high on there heads.
It's sad to see, but Black women in Atlanta are no different. On any summer day here, averaging over 90 degrees, there are women with jacked up weaves, wigs, and etc. I want all my sisters over the diaspora to wake up. The natural you is better than the fake someone else.

Yes, this is a pic of someone who decided air out their weave. Well, at least they washed it. Maybe they sweated the glue out from the heat. My source told me the pic is from Atlanta or is it Africa?

Sunday, October 7, 2007

Natural Hair, Health and Beauty Show: ATL, 2008

For those interested, there will be a another Natural Hair Event April 27-28, 2008 in Atlanta!

It is sponsored by Taliah Waajid of Braids, Weaves, and Things. For specific location and exhibitor information, visit I am excited and hope to meet you all there.

Saturday, October 6, 2007

The Philly Loc Conference! Amazing!

I had so many powerful experiences at the Philly Loc Conference that I want to share. So, just so you all know, the next few posts will be over experiences I had there. I attended workshops, ate, cried, laughed, and met and reconnected with some pretty amazing ladies of which included Brenda, Sunsail, QuietSpirit, Cluizel , my awesome consultant Jacqueline, her client Terry, my niece LaDawn, and beautiful Martine (the consultant of Jacqueline and initial install consultant of brunsli ) among countless others. Here are some photos from the event. Please don't copy the photos without permission. Enjoy!

Friday, October 5, 2007

Phenomenal Philly

I visited Philly this past weekend, and the city is beautiful (for the most part). One thing I like is the murals all over the city sponsored by the Public Arts Program. I know from seeing the homeless people in Philly, the money could have been better spent. But to see a mural downtown that featured some people of color was cool. One lady painted on the mural even had locs. Wow! There is an Islamic sistah in the backdrop and a plethora of people of color. I added the photo below. What do you think?

Thursday, October 4, 2007

Naturally, Sophia has a Nose Piercing

For those of you that don't know, I was debating about whether or not to get my nose pierced. And after much research, I finally pierced my nose.

The piercer was very clean and patient; but the process was intimidating. Despite the 6 piercings I received during my life (I know; I was the weird girl in high school), this one hurt more than I expected because of a problem the day after I was pierced. The initial piercing was o.k. with a quick sharp pain.

But then, my nose swelled. So the piercing was starting to get embedded in my nose the day after with this like a stinging pain. So, I went back to the piercer who informed me that he had to take it out and put it back in again. I thought it would feel like putting an earring back in or something. But then I felt a tremendous pain. It hurt badly, and my nose was bleeding! The piercer stopped the bleeding, which was minimal and unusual for a nostril piercing I was told.

So, now two weeks later, the swelling has gone down. I feel good about it now. I asked my friends and family what they thought, and most didn't notice. One loved one said, "It looks like it just belongs. I didn't notice it was there."
My next step will be getting cool jewelry for it. I will keep you posted...

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

WTF? Security Guard Attacks Student...Over Cake

School Guards Break Child's Arm And Arrest Her For Dropping Cake

School security guards in Palmdale, CA have been caught on camera assaulting a 16-year-old girl and breaking her arm after she spilled some cake during lunch and left some crumbs on the floor after cleaning it up. School security guards in Palmdale, CA have been caught on camera assaulting a 16-year-old girl and breaking her arm after she spilled some cake during lunch and left some crumbs on the floor after cleaning it up.
The incident occurred last week at Knight High School in Palmdale and was caught on a cell phone camera by another pupil who was then also assaulted by the security guards.

The girl, Pleajhai Mervin, told Fox News LA that she was bumped while queuing for lunch and dropped the cake. After being ordered to clean it up and then re-clean the spot three times, she attempted to leave the area out of embarrassment but was jumped on by security who forced her onto a table, breaking her wrist in the process.
Pleajhai also says that the security guard in the picture yelled "hold still nappy-head" at her, which at the time she did not know was a racist comment.

In an even more shocking development the security guards later had the mother of the girl arrested after she sought out an attorney and demanded that the guard be arrested, telling her that if she wanted the guard detained then she herself would also be charged with battery after she allegedly pushed the guard and an assistant principal of the school. She has also been suspended from her job at another school in the county.

The school expelled Pleajhai for five days before then having her arrested for battery and for littering (the dropping of the cake). Then they had the pupil who captured the video arrested along with his sister who was merely present at the scene.

The incident serves as another unbelievable case in the wave of police brutality sweeping the country. Commentators have linked the increased cases of brutality with a post 9/11 mentality in America where civil liberties have been totally diminished and the anointed "authorities" simply consider themselves above the law.

Former Reagan government official Paul Craig Roberts, for instance, has succinctly described the mentality as having turned "an epidemic of US police brutality into a pandemic".
What on earth have things come to when children are being physically assaulted and arrested in schools by huge "security officers" 5 times their size for "not complying with orders"?

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

The Right Stuff: Mac Foundation I was looking for a full coverage foundation because I ran out of the NC50 I usually use. I need full coverage to hide scars from acne and some facial hair that result from PCOS. TMI! I know but you were wondering why. Anyway,I was reduced to using Mary Kay in the meantime. ugh....

I finally made my was to MAC, and the Asian makeup artist told me that the NC50 was too ashy and recommended NW43 which was way too red as I am a cool with yellow undertones.

So then I returned it to another store and Keisha, a sistah, told me that both colors were wrong. She hooked me up with a combination of a cream foundation, Studio Tech, NC55 and Studio Fix, NC50 in a powder form. Apart of the problem was the application and technique. I was applying it without using a cleansing, exfoliating, and moisturizing routine. Yes, I finally have a skin routine.

As far as the technique, foundation is best applied with brushes to conserve the product and for an even application. So, in addition to the powder foundation brush I already have, I invested into a brush for cream foundation.
So, now I'm happy. My skin is getting the right stuff... oh-oh-o-ohh- the right stuff. I know I'm not the only one that remembers New Kids On The Block.

Monday, October 1, 2007

Who Retightened Her Hair? Sophia, Naturally

Ok. Well...I retightened part of it. After awhile, my hands got tired and I had to use a mirror. But I was able to retighten maybe 20 or so locs in the front.

This is what I used:

I like this tool because it has an open end to put your hair thru and a hook all in one. I put my loc thru the bottom of the tool and pulled the hook thru my hair at the base in a counter clockwise direction.

There were some locs that slid thru the loop. When this happened, I tied the ends of my hair to the loop until I finished with that lock in particular.

I also used the crochet hook for the smaller locs around the base of my hair. I am going to ask my dad to drill a hole in the bottom of it because the loop at the other end is helpful. With the loop, you don't have to keep grabbing the loc with the hook with each turn! The loop allows you to pull it thru without really using the hook to bring the hair thru.

It is simple but time-consuming. I am going to try the nappy locs tool too. The more options, the better. Any tips? Thoughts?