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Friday, June 29, 2007

Angelina Jolie as Mariane Pearl

I am writing this post due to some frustration and resentment I feel at Angelina Jolie's portrayal of Mariane Pearl in the film, A Mighty Heart. As a Black woman, it bothers me. Mariane Pearl is described as being half Dutch/half Afro-Cuban. I would argue that most people in American society, certainly myself, would identify her as being Black also. There are arguments that she is "bi-racial". I think that's fine, but it still usually equates to being identified with as Black. I am multi-racial (like most Black people). So, to me, that argument is faulty.

The curls and brown skin added to Jolie really irritate me. As a curly girl for life, I can not accurately express what it is like to have untamed corkscrews on your head. No matter how eloquent my explanation, you would know what it was like unless you had them yourself, naturally for a period of time in a Western society. As a child, you would not know the pain of having other girls whose parents use carcinogenic chemicals to straighten their hair calling you "not really Black" or a "fake Shaka Khan" as they exclude you from their circle. You would not know how someone with a heavy hand or hot comb could bring tears to your eyes or burns to your neck, forehead, and ears. And then, there is the brown skin. Although it's something that I have learned to be proud of, countless times it has proven to be an inconvenient, label having nothing to do with my personality, interests, or background. Really, how can Jolie as a White woman not only understand but empathize enough to be a Black woman, if only for the brevity of a role?

Furthermore, I feel Jolie playing the role could not accurately represent the loving, interracial relationship she seemed to have with her deceased partner. How can she portray a Black woman in an interracial relationship as well as a Black woman (also a good actress) could? Then again, there are countless Black actresses that could have portrayed the role from A-lister's to upcoming actresses just waiting for there big break. It would have been so much better, if after viewing this movie, I could have said how great X actress was at this portrayal. But that's not the case. Jolie's performance was solid but not great. I feel there were opportunities she missed to accurately portray Mariane Pearl. I can't help but wonder if the actress was truly Black,would those opportunities be missed. Please comment; I grow from your feedback.

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Why I am Glad I Watched the BET Awards- Model Ajuma

So, I am lamenting over the "bafoonery" at the Source, Vibe, I mean 2007 BET Awards. Then, I saw her for the second time. There she was illuminating in the Target commercial between the awards show. I saw her once before in the now defunct Suede magazine. And yes, I was smitten even then. I swore to myself this time I would know her name. Ajuma Nasanyana, is a breathtakingly beautiful supermodel. I adore her lips and skin tone, grace and beauty. Won't you admire her with me?

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

2007 BET Awards- The Good, Bad, Ugly, Sexy, and WTF

The Good:
Don Cheadle's acceptance speech. It was simple, humble, and humorous.

BET AWARDS '07 Don Cheadle, BET Humanitarian Award Recipient

Don Cheadle is the recipient of the Humanitarian Award for the BET Awards 2007. Don Cheadle has a new mission in life: raising awareness about the atrocities being carried out in what the United Nations says is the world's worst humanitarian crisis. After acting in Hotel Rwanda (2004), a film about the early 1990s Rwandan genocide, he became an activist to raise awareness of the mid-2000s genocide in the Darfur region of Sudan. In January 2005, he traveled to Sudan with five members of Congress to see refugee camps and to meet survivors of the genocide. Upon his return, he reported on his trip for "ABC News Nightline". In 2007 the book Not on Our Watch: The Mission to End Genocide in Darfur and Beyond was published, which Cheadle co-wrote with John Prendergast, a humanitarian with much experience in Africa with the International Crisis Group.

The Bad- Bad Azz here: Look at Erykah's performance. I love it!

The Ugly:

Lil Kim- It's just too much. Please stop it! The plastic surgery is to correct not create. Ewwh! And her performance was horrible. I couldn't understand what she was saying.

The Sexy:

Eva Pigford- Showing sexy is not how much skin you can show or how "alley" you can be. She is regal and stunning.

Reggie Bush- OMG! Crush at first sight!

The WTF?
Public Enemy paid tribute to soul legend James Brown at the BET Awards last night (June 26), with a performance of his hit 'Say It Loud (I'm Black And I'm Proud)' .Flavor Flav and Chuck D also performed a medley of their own material, featuring some of their most famous songs including 'Fight The Power' and '911 Is A Joke'. Bootsy Collins joined the pair for their tribute to Brown who passed away late last year.

I am really disappointed that James Brown was given a shorter, less in-depth tribute. He deserves much more. In addition, I disliked the audience participation with fists in the air and "I'm Black and I'm Proud". It was ridiculous, for the people in the audience that were Black, they certainly didn't look proud to be Black. They looked happy to be on TV... not proud in any sense.

Monday, June 25, 2007

Rare- Restaurant Review

On Friday, the womyn from work and I went to Rare, a soul-food, tapas restaurant in the ATL. Where else would you find such a thing? The food was delicious, and the ambiance was nice. It has a plush, earthy vibe that is fresh but comforting. I loved the lush look from the cream, silk chaise lounges to the burgundy accents. I also liked the fact that our bar table was made of a rustic, chocolate brown door. Many areas have exposed brick walls. Very cool!

Of course, I had the Curry Chicken Kabobs. I was impressed as the recipe tastes more like Trinidadian curry than the Jamaican style. And because it is a tapas restaurant, I also tasted the Jerk Spiced Chicken, Trio of Deviled Eggs, the Fondue, and the Rare BLT. I skipped the dessert menu. But my friend said the Warm Chocolate Bread Pudding was good.

If you are ever in Atlanta and interested in supporting one of the almost 2,000 Black-owned businesses, I recommend this restaurant. The service, drinks, and food were very good. It is in close proximity to clubs and entertainment, in fabulous Midtown. The web address is and ask for Tina.

Thursday, June 21, 2007

Locs and the Lint

I have noticed that at the front base of my new babies that there is ...gasp...lint. I sleep on a satin pillowcase or my chenille couch. I noticed that I have white cotton in my hair. It must be coming from my washcloth. Any suggestions for the removal of lint? I have managed to pick most of it out. Squint and see photo on the right, but how can I prevent/remedy this in the future?

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Genarlow Wilson

The biggest news story in my circle is that of Genarlow Wilson. Genarlow Wilson — sentenced to 10 years in prison for consensual oral sex with a 15-year-old girl when he was 17 — has become a cause célèbre, the unlikely figure at the center of a national struggle over competing views of justice.

Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban has come to his defense. So has former President Jimmy Carter. So has the Rev. Raphael Warnock, pastor of Atlanta's historic Ebenezer Baptist Church.

Wilson's supporters have portrayed a young man with good grades, college aspirations and no criminal history, tripped up by a rigid law that criminalized adolescent recklessness. The severe sentence — mandated by a Georgia law since revised — has been dissected in national media and discussed in countless blog posts and e-mails, all denouncing a criminal justice system that would mete out 10 years in prison for teenage behavior that was foolish but hardly malevolent.

On the other side of this morality tale are prosecutors and legislators who insist that they are defending young girls who were misused by a gang of drug-addled, predatory young men. Douglas County District Attorney David McDade is furious that he has been painted as a racist, incensed over "disinformation" he says has mangled the facts of the case.

He notes that all the teens involved are black — "If I had turned a deaf ear to these young ladies and their families when they cried out for help, I would have been accused of turning a deaf ear to African-American victims." He further points out that five other defendants pleaded guilty and were sentenced to as much as six years in prison and status as sex offenders. McDade has contended that Wilson wants to be a "martyr."

A jury found that the only sex crime Wilson committed was on a technicality. He was found not guilty of raping a 17-year-old, who claimed she was too impaired to consent to intercourse. They did find him guilty, however, of aggravated child molestation against a 15-year-old, who willingly performed oral sex on him and others.

****Excerpts were taken from the!

Thursday, June 14, 2007

F#@kery & Fools- Sophie & the Single Life

The greatest thing about being single is the freedom and the possibility that any positive thing can happen romantically at anytime. However, as of late, nothing good has happened. I am completely feed up with the dating scene, moreover the fools that I end up dating. I am in a catty mood. Meow! No...Roar!

Introducing Fool #1, Bama Bachelor, we dated for a month. Things were going great. He called everyday and said/did all the nice things. He then says, " I am going out of town, but call me at this number while I am away." I call him and he ignores/avoids all my calls/voice mails. I call from another number; and when he recognizes it's me, he avoids me!! Until yesterday, when he sends me some BS text and then changes his number. ARRRRRG!

Introducing Fool # 2, Liar Liar Pants on Fire, we dated a few times. He lied about having his 4 no 5 children. He wasn't really sure about the 3rd one. Initially, he said that he like myself had none. Grrrrr!

Lisa Bonet: Locked, Pregnant, & Beautiful

'DENISE HUXTBALE' A.K.A. LISA BONET EXPECTING 3rd CHILD.Apparently, Lisa Bonet, 39, is expecting her third child! She was spotted out with daughter Zoe Kravitz, 18, in NYC earlier today (June 10), sporting quite the baby belly. She also has a son, Desikachar Kest, who is about 12 years old Dad is yoga instructor Brian Kest.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

My Battle with Amenorrhea

My visitor came today. My period usually comes only once every year to year in a half. This means I have amenorrhea. Amenorrhea is the name given to the condition when a woman fails to have menstrual periods. The condition is known as "primary amenorrhea" when the woman has never menstruated; and "secondary amenorrhea" if her periods cease after having been regular for months or years.

I am so happy when he (my period) comes that I celebrate his visit. I always refer to my cycle as masculine because it is like a man in the sense he comes when he wants to visit without asking and leaves whenever he is ready. He never calls or lets me know what he is planning. I miss him when he is away, and he never listens. Lol!

I have visited 2 gynecologist and one herbal specialist as I am always overly concerned with this, and everyone always assures me that I'm ok physically. The herbal specialist advised me to make a smoothie of beets and lychee fruit. Ewwwh! A few days after regularly drinking this my period visited for a little while and disappeared until the following year. I feel fine, but I may have Poly-Cystic Ovary Syndrome.

Poly-Cystic Ovary Syndrome - PCOS - is the most common endocrine disease that affects women of reproductive age (puberty to menopause). It is also one of the most confusing. It affects approximately 10% of women in the reproductive age group. There have been some new developments that are giving us a much better understanding of this problem.
PCOS is an unfortunate term because the word "ovarian" appears in the name of this syndrome. For years, many people automatically assumed that it is purely an ovarian disease. We now recognize that it is in fact, a systemic endocrine and metabolic disorder. Multiple factors are at work. It should really be called the "Poly-Cystic Ovary/Excess Androgen Production /Adrenal Hyperplasia / Insulin Resistant / Hyperpipidemic / Often Overweight / Anovulatory /Hirsute / Sometimes Acne" Syndrome.

PCOS is a total body endocrine disease. It is unfortunate and confusing that the word "Ovary" appears in the name. The abnormalities in the ovary are really more the result of the problem - not the cause.

The problem is further complicated by the fact that there is really no universal definition of PCOS even though most endocrinologists would agree on a set of criteria necessary to make the diagnosis. If there is one absolute that is necessary to make the diagnosis of PCOS, it is the complete or almost complete lack of ovulation. Women who are ovulating regularly on their own, cannot, by definition, have PCOS. There are however Reproductive Endocrinologists who feel that women who have all the features of PCOS except for the fact that they ovulate may have a subset of the syndrome. However, these women are much less likely to be insulin resistant.

The other criteria that must be satisfied is that the women have either clinical or laboratory evidence of increased androgen (male hormone) production, either facial hair and/or acne. Laboratory confirmation is important because women from certain ethnic groups such as Oriental, Hispanic, or Native American may show very little clinical evidence of increased androgen production even in the face of significantly elevated blood levels.

I mean I like to know that my period is there although it's a hassle when it comes. I feel a sense of loss without it. And if I ever decide to have children, I would not want the heartache and medical treatment it would take to overcome infertility issues.

If any of you womyn have comments, questions, help groups, or suggestions, please comment.

Monday, June 11, 2007

My Busy Weekend

On Saturday, I climbed Stone Mountain for the first time. It is about 1.5 miles to the top of a gradually steep incline, but it was one of the best experiences ever. I went with a co-worker who whined the whole way. So, I had to play enthusiast. You can see all of Atlanta and North Georgia from the top, and I included a view from the side of the mountain. I plan on doing the climb at least 4 times a week to add some variety to my workout. I wish I had taken my journal to write down my thoughts at the top of the mountain. It's overwhelming to see the majesty of nature and The Creator.

Over the weekend, I washed my Sisterlocks for the first time. I found that the process didn't take that long. I bundled in sections and used the Sisterlocks shampoo, although I wish that I didn't have to bundle. I can't wait until my locs mature because I want to use my Aveda Sap Moss Shampoo.

My hair has returned to it's lion mane partially. I love that my thickness is starting to cover most of the parts in the scalp. I took this photo with my camera phone from the side. Sorry about the resolution. But I like that it is starting to look more like locs.; I think I might try some styles now that it's less fragile. I like hair accessories, but I don't like all my hair up. I think I might try braiding/banding in the front or bantu knots all over. As always, I welcome any tips and style suggestions.

Thursday, June 7, 2007

An Entry for Carlos

Carlos, my BFF, and I have not had/made time to catch up. Carlos had many questions over the phone last night. I really miss spending time together, and hopefully this will be a catalyst for us to actually have some quality time. Carlos asked me what music was I into now. These are the artists in my disc changer today.

1. The Noisettes- I love, Shingai Shoniwa, the lead singer's gorgeous voice. I don't think there is anything she has sang that I didn't like! Plus, I love punk music. Check out their cover of Whitney Houston's "I Wanna Dance with Somebody".

2. Amy Winehouse- I feel like Ms. Winehouse is singing about my life right now. Carlos, I know you know what I mean. I listen to her album everyday after work. Let me know what you think or if you can relate after you watch the video. Laugh out Loud, Carlos!

3. Nina Simone- She is a legend whose voice is like an instrument itself. Besides, I love the lyrics to "I Put a Spell on You". The words along with her voice are spellbinding together. Check out what a wonderful, timeless, and Afrocentric performer. Nina is below:

4. Beenie Man- One of my favorite types of music is Dancehall. I listen to Beenie especially when I work out. I can't listen to this song without dancing. The video is OK, but the beat is banging. Enjoy!

5. Prince- I have a special friend right now, and I haven't heard from him in awhile. So, I listen to this because it's kind of how I feel about him. The other songs from Prince's B sides are good too. Among my favorites is "Erotic City" and "17 Days". You can click here for the first 30 seconds of "How Come You Don't Call Me Anymore". Alicia Keys covered it, but I prefer his Purple Majesty's version.

PrinceHow Come U Don't Call Me Anymore

Monday, June 4, 2007

Week 1 with Sisterlocks

1. I did not anticipate how many people would ask me questions. I thought my close friends and family would be mildly curious. But their questions are so thorough that I can't even answer most of them. And then, strangers have not stopped asking questions and touching my hair, usually without permission. Although I am flattered by this, it needs to stop. I don't want to seem snobbish, but it feels weird to have so many people touching my hair.

2. My hair has curled naturally all over now. I am pleased about this because initially it looked much straighter than I'm used to seeing. I missed my poofiness. See poofiness to the right.

3. I don't know if it's a Black, Southern thing; but I have gotten some opposition to my hair. Some of my family, friends and co-workers have expressed that if they had "good" hair that they would not loc it although they say they like natural hair. I think to myself, if I had naturally kinky hair, I would not have a relaxer. I also challenge their perception of good. I usually do this by asking if they believe in God. They typically say yes. I go on to ask if God is good. I usually get a yes also. I then say, if God is good, how can a gift from God be bad. I also gently tell them I like locs and have had them in the past.
I took out my ~100 locs because of my mother's disapproval. This time, regardless of the scolding she gave me, they are staying. I have to be who I am. The more I am myself, the more prepared I am for life. I feel encouraged and empowered. Besides I like not washing and styling or combing and brushing my hair everyday. I used one of my old brushes to clean the bathroom sinks this weekend. I love not using it on my hair. It's freedom!!!
4. I forgot to include my hair stats and hairstory! My hair is a 3B in type. It is naturally jet black. I have 490 Sisterlocks that are small/micro. I only have micros around my hairline in the front. I have worn weaves, wigs, braids, and every color imaginable. Typically, I wore my hair in a natural poof, a bun (chignon) , or straightened with a ceramic iron or hot comb.

5. I am happy that I did my research beforehand. Jacqueline did an awesome job and provided good information. Check out how detailed the parting and sizing is. I am also happy that I have realistic expectations about what to expect and what to do. I don't feel I would have that info without doing the research first.